Alhamdulillah, helped a family yesterday from splitting up.
Kind of classic desi feud living in states. They have a two year old son, and their marriage was having ups and downs.
The girl has her family support and she seems to get advice about everything from her mom. The guy gets advice from his mom. Their families are both in pakistan, yet living in pakistan the parents feel they can run their usa lives from abroad. which they have been for 4 years. three days ago the girl's mom advised her that if the guy's not running in hoops around her pinky she should start threatning him with calls to 911. well that went on for two days and then the girl ended up calling the police, falsifying the claim she was being abused.
oh well... the whole saga continued, the restraining order, the girl and their kid staying at one of the guy's friends for two nites.
thank Allah the guy who was hosting the girl got intouch with me.
after a whole day of talking to the couple both seperately and together, it turned out they were both more concerned about what "others" would now think if they got back together cause others seemed to matter more now that they had split.
At the end, i made them realize that they should screw the others, friends familieis, who are calmly sleeping in their own beds and won't care a hoot about what is going in their lives.
12 hours of sanity therapy, and they're back together Alhamdulillah.
moral of the story is, if you are married, think about your own marriage rather than caring about what others think of your marriage. and save it !
Girls, before you call 911, know this, you'll be screwed more than the guy in the long run.
I say this to the girls because guys usually don't call the police asking the law to wreck their families and hand it over to the courts in a platter to be shattered. The guys are stupid just not THAT stupid.
Here's the funny part, the family who advised the wife to call the police is the one who backed out when it was time to take care of the girl and the kid to shelter and provide for. The girl realized that afterwards but it was too late. Girls usually need support and advice before they go ahead with such a big decision of calling the police. in 99% of the cases its their mother who say "go ahead we have your back". well after they're divorced and living with their moms again with the kid, it's their own mother who start forcing her to go out and find someone else to marry and get out of their house. well if that's the case why not let her stay with the current husband ?
happy marriages !
